When someone tells you they are pregnant, you may feel happy, surprised, unsure, or worried about saying the right thing. People often struggle because pregnancy can be deeply personal, and reactions vary depending on the relationship, timing, and circumstances.

Simple wording helps because it reduces the chance of saying something tone-deaf or intrusive. Short, genuine responses let the person know you care while leaving space for more conversation if they want it.

This article gives clear examples of what to say in different tones — simple, supportive, empathetic, and light — plus a few faith-based options where appropriate. You’ll also find guidance on what to avoid and practical tips for handling the moment with respect and care.

Why This Moment Matters

A pregnancy announcement sits at the intersection of joy, uncertainty, and change. For the person sharing news, it can bring excitement and vulnerability; they may be thinking about health, finances, relationships, and the reaction they’ll receive.

Your response matters because it shapes how safe and supported they feel. A thoughtful comment can strengthen trust and open a supportive dialogue, while an offhand or presumptive remark can create discomfort or shut down further conversation.

Keep in mind that you rarely know everything behind the news. Responding with openness and restraint gives the person control over how much they share and helps maintain dignity and connection.

Useful Things to Say

Simple Responses

• “Congratulations.” A brief, warm acknowledgement that signals you recognize the importance of the news.
• “That’s wonderful.” Neutral and positive without assuming how they feel about the pregnancy.
• “Thanks for sharing.” Validates the act of telling you and respects their choice to inform you.
• “How are you feeling?” Short and practical, opening space for them to talk about physical or emotional state.
• “I’m happy for you.” Direct and supportive without adding expectations.
• “Would you like to talk about it?” Offers an invitation without pressuring them to disclose more.

Supportive Responses

• “What can I do to help?” Practical and action-oriented, it shows you’re ready to support in specific ways.
• “If you need someone to run errands or babysit older kids, I’m available.” Suggests concrete help rather than a vague offer.
• “Do you want company for appointments or tests?” Respectful and useful, especially early in pregnancy when appointments feel heavy.
• “I can help find resources if that would be useful.” Practical and nonjudgmental, useful for new or uncertain parents.
• “Would you like me to wait to share this with others?” Respects their privacy and timing for broader announcements.
• “I’ll make room in my schedule if you need anything.” Shows flexibility and readiness to support.

Empathetic Responses

• “I can imagine this might be a lot to process.” Validates complexity without making assumptions about their feelings.
• “It’s okay to feel excited or nervous — both are normal.” Normalizes mixed emotions and reduces pressure to react a certain way.
• “If you’re worried about anything, I’m here to listen.” Offers emotional availability rather than quick fixes.
• “Take your time telling people — you decide who knows and when.” Affirms their control over the announcement process.
• “I’m thinking of you and here if you want to talk anytime.” Keeps the door open for future conversations in a gentle way.
• “How can I support you emotionally right now?” Directly invites them to express needs without making assumptions.

Light, Warm Responses

• “This is such exciting news — I’m so happy for you!” Cheerful and warm while still letting them set the tone for the rest of the conversation.
• “You’re going to be a great parent.” Encouraging and positive without being overbearing.
• “Let’s celebrate when you’re ready.” Offers a future moment to share joy while respecting pacing.
• “I can’t wait to meet the little one.” Forward-looking and affectionate, useful with close friends or family.
• “You must be glowing!” Light and complimentary, but use only if you’re confident the person will receive it well.

Faith-Based Responses

• “You’re in my prayers.” Simple and supportive for people who find comfort in faith-based language.
• “Praying for a healthy pregnancy and smooth delivery.” Specific and caring while remaining respectful of their beliefs.
• “If you’d like, I can pray with you or keep you in my thoughts.” Offers faith-based support without assuming it’s wanted.
• “May this be a blessed time for your family.” Warm and spiritual, appropriate when you know the person values faith language.

What Not to Say

• Avoid asking “Was this planned?” as it feels intrusive and judgmental.
• Don’t comment on body size or appearance; it’s unnecessary and can be hurtful.
• Steer clear of horror stories about childbirth or parenting that add anxiety.
• Don’t pressure them about gender, names, or parenting decisions before they’re ready.
• Avoid comparing their situation to your own experience; it redirects focus away from them.
• Don’t assume they want advice — unsolicited tips can feel controlling.

Helpful Tips for Handling the Moment

• Use a calm, steady tone; enthusiasm is fine but avoid overwhelming energy.
• Match timing to their lead; let them set how much they want to share right away.
• Listen more than you talk; give space for questions, silence, or emotion.
• Keep body language open: face them, maintain gentle eye contact, and respect physical boundaries.
• Ask permission before sharing news with others or before offering advice.
• Offer concrete help rather than vague statements like “let me know if you need anything.”
• Respect confidentiality if they ask you to keep the news private.

Final Thought

You don’t need perfect words — you need to be present, respectful, and sincere. A brief, thoughtful response paired with willingness to listen and help will usually mean more than the most eloquent phrase. Trust your instincts, honor the person’s lead, and your honesty will come across as support.

Let us know in the comments if this has helped or if you’ve got suggestions we can include

About the Author 

Helen Bach is a relationship expert and writer who helps people find the right words when it matters most. She studied English and English Literature at the University of Michigan, where she developed a passion for how language shapes love, conflict, and connection.

At whattosaywhen.net, Helen writes clear, down-to-earth advice on what to say in real-life situations—from first dates and tough conversations to breakups and makeups. Her goal is simple: to make talking about feelings less awkward and a lot more honest.