It can feel a little surprising when a guy compliments you over text — you might not be sure how to respond, whether to play it cool, or if your reply should signal interest. A clear, brief response keeps things comfortable and helps you control the tone of the conversation without overthinking it.

Why This Moment Matters

A compliment delivered by text is both social and emotional: it can signal attraction, appreciation, or simply friendliness. How you reply shapes what comes next — it can encourage more warmth, set a playful tone, or gently establish boundaries. Because tone is easy to misread in messages, your words decide whether the exchange stays light, deepens, or ends politely.

Short, Simple Things You Can Say

• Thank you — that means a lot.
• You’re sweet to say that.
• Made my day, thanks!
• Haha, stop it — you’re flattering me.
• I appreciate that — you’re awesome too.
• Wow, thanks — coming from you that’s nice to hear.
• Aww, thanks 🙂 (simple and friendly)

Longer Messages With More Warmth

• Thanks — I wasn’t expecting that and it actually brightened my afternoon. I appreciate it.
• That’s really kind of you to say. I like that you noticed — thank you for being thoughtful.
• You always know how to make me smile. I appreciate the compliment and the good vibes.
• I’m flattered — it’s nice to hear that from you. I enjoy talking with you, too.
• Thank you. I value that you’re paying attention — it feels good to be seen.

What to Avoid Saying

• Over-sharing personal history or insecurities in response (e.g., ‘I never thought I was attractive because…’)
• Ignoring the compliment completely without a brief acknowledgment — silence can be interpreted as rudeness or mixed signals.
• Responding with something passive-aggressive or dismissive if you’re unsure of intent.
• Immediately escalating into sexual comments or innuendo if you don’t want that tone.
• Making a comparison that downplays yourself (e.g., ‘Well, compared to X…’).
• Lying to reciprocate if you don’t genuinely feel the same (it’s better to be honest or neutral).

Helpful Tips for Handling the Moment

• Match the tone: if the compliment is playful, a light-hearted reply fits; if it’s sincere, respond earnestly.
• Keep safety and context in mind — if it’s from someone you don’t know well, be polite but guarded.
• Use a short emoji (smile, blush) if you want to soften the response without saying much.
• If you’re interested, a brief follow-up question (e.g., “What made you notice?”) can keep the conversation going.
• If you don’t want romantic interest, respond kindly but neutrally and avoid sending mixed signals.
• Pause before replying if the text makes you uncomfortable — you don’t have to answer immediately.

A Note About This Particular Situation

Text compliments lack vocal cues, so consider who the sender is and the context before interpreting deeper meaning. A compliment from a friend, coworker, or someone pursuing you likely has different intent — and your response can reflect that difference. Respect your own comfort level: kindness doesn’t require enthusiasm if you don’t feel it, and setting boundaries can be done gently and clearly.

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About the Author

Helen Bach is a relationship expert and writer who helps people find the right words when it matters most. She studied English and English Literature at the University of Michigan, where she developed a passion for how language shapes love, conflict, and connection.

At whattosaywhen.net, Helen writes clear, down-to-earth advice on what to say in real-life situations—from first dates and tough conversations to breakups and makeups. Her goal is simple: to make talking about feelings less awkward and a lot more honest.