It can be surprisingly hard to know what to say when someone tells you they’re proud of you — you might feel embarrassed, humbled, or unsure how to accept the compliment. A simple, steady response helps the moment feel real and honors both the person giving praise and the effort you put in.

Why This Moment Matters

When someone says they’re proud of you, they’re not just commenting on results — they’re acknowledging your effort, growth, or character. That recognition can deepen relationships, validate hard work, and make an achievement feel seen. How you respond shapes the tone of the exchange: accepting warmth strengthens connection, while deflecting can leave both people awkward or unheard.

Short, Simple Things You Can Say

• Thank you — that means a lot.
• I appreciate you saying that.
• Hearing that from you really matters.
• I’m glad you noticed.
• That makes me really happy to hear.
• Thank you — I’ve been working hard on this.

Longer Messages With More Warmth

• Thank you. I’ve put a lot into this and knowing you see it makes it feel worth it — I really appreciate your support.
• That’s so kind to hear. Your encouragement has helped me keep going, and I don’t take it for granted.
• I’m proud of the progress, too — and hearing that from you makes me want to keep improving.
• Wow — thank you. It’s been a tougher road than it looks, and your saying that reminds me why I started.
• Thank you for noticing. Your belief in me gives me confidence I didn’t always have.

What to Avoid Saying

• Don’t immediately minimize or deflect with “It was nothing” or “Anyone could have done it.”
• Avoid turning the compliment into a joke that undermines your achievement.
• Don’t over-explain or give a long list of excuses (it can make you seem ungrateful).
• Avoid negating the other person’s perception with “You don’t know the whole story.”
• Don’t turn it back into a comparison: “Well, at least I did better than X.”

Helpful Tips for Handling the Moment

• Pause for a moment and make eye contact — a brief pause lets the compliment register.
• Say thank you first; you can add more if you want, but acceptance is the kindest initial response.
• If it’s appropriate, name something specific: “I appreciate that, especially because I struggled with X.”
• Match their tone and warmth; if they’re emotional, a warmer reply is fine, if casual, keep it light.
• Follow up later with a small message or gesture (a text, coffee, or note) to acknowledge their support.
• Respect boundaries: if you’re uncomfortable discussing details, a short sincere thanks is enough.

A Note About This Particular Situation

Who’s saying they’re proud of you changes the meaning — a parent’s pride can carry history and expectations, while a boss’s praise may be linked to performance or advancement. Consider the relationship and any power dynamics when you respond, and choose wording that honours both the compliment and your own comfort.

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About the Author 

Helen Bach is a relationship expert and writer who helps people find the right words when it matters most. She studied English and English Literature at the University of Michigan, where she developed a passion for how language shapes love, conflict, and connection.

At whattosaywhen.net, Helen writes clear, down-to-earth advice on what to say in real-life situations—from first dates and tough conversations to breakups and makeups. Her goal is simple: to make talking about feelings less awkward and a lot more honest.