Asking for a raise is one of those conversations that can feel high-stakes and uncomfortable, even when you know your work speaks for itself. Using calm, specific language keeps the focus on your contributions and makes it easier for your manager to respond constructively. Below are ready-to-use phrases and practical tips to help you prepare.

Why This Moment Matters

A raise conversation is not only about money; it communicates how you value your work and expect to be valued by your organization. It affects your career trajectory, your relationship with your manager, and sometimes how your teammates see your role. Clear, respectful language can turn a tense moment into a plan for recognition and growth.

Short, Simple Things You Can Say

• ‘I’d like to schedule time to review my compensation.’
• ‘Can we talk about my role and salary when you have 20 minutes?’
• ‘I’ve taken on X responsibilities and would like to discuss adjusting my pay.’
• ‘Based on recent results, I’d like to talk about a salary review.’
• ‘Could we revisit my compensation after the project is delivered?’
• ‘I’m looking for guidance on how to reach the next pay level.’

Longer Messages With More Warmth

• ‘I’ve really enjoyed leading the launch of X and the metrics show a Y% improvement. When you have time, I’d like to discuss aligning my compensation with these added responsibilities.’
• ‘Over the past year I’ve expanded my role to include mentoring new hires and managing client relationships. I value our work together and would appreciate a conversation about my salary and next steps for growth.’
• ‘I want to keep contributing at a high level. Given the outcomes from the last two quarters and the extra responsibilities I’ve taken on, I’d like to talk about a raise or other ways to reflect that contribution.’
• ‘I’ve researched market ranges for similar roles and believe an adjustment is appropriate. I respect your perspective—can we review my performance and discuss options?’
• ‘I know budgets are tight right now, but I want to be transparent: I’m hoping we can find a way to recognize the added value I bring. If a raise isn’t possible now, I’d like to discuss a plan and timeline.’

What to Avoid Saying

• Demanding a raise without evidence or context (e.g., ‘Give me a raise or else’).
• Comparing yourself mainly to coworkers (‘I deserve more than X because they do less’).
• Centering personal financial needs as the primary argument (‘I need this to pay my rent’).
• Being vague about accomplishments (‘I’ve been doing a lot and want more pay’).
• Apologizing repeatedly or undermining your request (‘Sorry to bring this up, but…’).
• Making threats to leave without a clear plan (it can backfire if you’re not prepared).

Helpful Tips for Handling the Moment

• Bring specific examples and metrics: projects completed, revenue or cost savings, performance ratings, expanded duties.
• Research market salary ranges and your company’s typical timing for raises so your request is realistic.
• Request a meeting rather than springing the topic in passing—this signals seriousness and gives your manager time to prepare.
• Practice a short opening line and possible responses to different outcomes (yes, no, maybe, needs approval).
• Be ready to discuss alternatives: title change, bonus, increase in responsibilities with a documented review date, or professional development support.
• Follow up in writing with agreed next steps and timelines so there’s a clear record of the conversation.

A Note About This Particular Situation

Managers often have constraints beyond their control—budget cycles, approval layers, or company-wide policies—so a “no” may not reflect your performance. Treat the meeting as the start of a negotiation: gather feedback, agree on measurable goals, and set a date to revisit compensation. That keeps momentum and shows you’re focused on mutual success.

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About the Author

Helen Bach is a relationship expert and writer who helps people find the right words when it matters most. She studied English and English Literature at the University of Michigan, where she developed a passion for how language shapes love, conflict, and connection.

At whattosaywhen.net, Helen writes clear, down-to-earth advice on what to say in real-life situations—from first dates and tough conversations to breakups and makeups. Her goal is simple: to make talking about feelings less awkward and a lot more honest.